“Trust yourself. Create the kind of self that you will be happy to live with all your life. Make the most of yourself by fanning the tiny, inner sparks of possibility into flames of achievement.”
Golda Meir
From https://space2livedotnet.files.wordpress.com
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Life is full of “unknowns”, so we all speculate and assume what we don’t know. We make decisions despite that and to the best of our guesses.
The same applies to our relationships with other people. We all hold certain assumptions towards other people (partner, close friends, or distant acquaintances). We give these, too, their share of wild “guesses”.
If we’re the suspicious type, we’re likely to have assumptions of negative intentions. We doubt what others are up to despite their disclosure. We’re uncertain about what they hide behind a probable facade they wear & distrust the truth of what they share or declare. We assume otherwise just to beware…
The assumptions that we have today are beliefs and expectations about reality which we developed at some point in the past.
While some of these assumptions can be constructive or harmless, other assumptions have the ability to destroy the relationship and trigger the whole chain of tragic events.
A mere assumption that his wife had an affair leads Alex, the main character in The Banishment, to force his wife to make an abortion in a hope to re-build their relationship and save their marriage once this unborn baby is out of the way. As the result of that mere assumption he loses everything: his baby, his wife, his family. Pure lack of communication takes a deadly turn…
It can be difficult to recognize assumptions because they tend to be buried deep in our subconscious minds where they become ingrained with our personal worldview.
Take as an example Othello – a highly respected Venetian state servant, a Moor with an exotic cultural past. As Peter Winsley points out, Othello is a truly admirable man whose achievements and successes are due to his own abilities and efforts rather than blood-line and inheritance. Why this admirable military leader, successful man with a bright strategic mind falls pray to Iago’s insinuations?
Iago’s detects and exploits Othello’s insecurities, causing him to falsely suspect people around him. He intuits that Othello feels insecure due to his racial identity, especially given that he has married a beautiful white woman, and manipulates Othello into self-destructive behaviours. He plays on Othello’s self-doubts, subconscious assumption and fear that he is not good enough for Desdemona because of his racial identity and that if someone “better” comes along, Desdemona would prefer that person over him.
It takes just a few seeds of self-doubt to grow and overwhelm Othello’s trust in himself, in others, and in the world…
As Charles Gosset points out, it is easy to “assume” that our assumptions are just the way things are for us and that there’s nothing we can do to change them. However we all have the power and ability to challenge and change our negative assumptions once we first learn how to spot these slippery tricksters.
What are your assumptions?
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Image 1: from https://coachingur3ps.wordpress.com
Image 2: From http://quotes.lifehack.org
Image 3: The banishment
Image 4: Othello
Image 5: From http://greaternw.org/
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All the world’s a stage,
And all the men and women merely players.
They have their exits and their entrances,
And one man in his time plays many parts…
(From Shakespeare’s ‘As You Like It’, 1600)
What is your part?
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Image 1: ‘All the world’s a stage’ by Vitaly Vorobiev
Image 2: from http://sometimesalicefx.deviantart.com
“Your sacred space is where you can find yourself again and again”
Joseph Campbell
From https://www.pinterest.com
Where is your sacred space?
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From https://patcegan.wordpress.com
“If you have a problem with the Moon in the sky and you are unhappy, change yourself, because the Moon won’t change!”
Mehmet Murat ildan
Well we all shine on
Like the moon and the stars and the sun
Well we all shine on…
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Just as materialism transformed life in the 20th century, experientialism has the power to do the same in the 21st century, says the author of an influential new book “Stuffocation: Living more with Less” by James Wallman.
Wallman is a big advocate of “investing in experiences and memories, rather than the short-loved appeal of objects”
We buy too much, have too much, hold on too much. We are weighed down “by our own excesses” and our insatiable hunger for ever-more stuff is making us “joyless, anxious, depressed”. Our obsession with having things is unsustainable, he argues. It has a huge ecological impact. It adds to our debt. And it no longer propels us up the social ladder.
From http://www.dailymail.co.uk/
Experientialism – a value system based on experiences. In experientialism, doing becomes the new having. Happiness and status are defined not but what people have, “but by what people do”.
Experientialism is better for society, better for the world, better for us as people in terms of our happiness and status and giving us meaning in life, he argues. “And once you have a greater sense of happiness, once you have a greater sense of identity, you will be more resilient in your life and in terms of making better choices.”…
From http://www.scapesindia.com/
To be happier and healthier today, tomorrow and in the long run, try the following experientialist habits:
1. Know Your Stuff
To make sure your possessions play a healthy role in your life, ask yourself these questions: How often do I use my possessions? How much stuff do I really need? Do my things give me experiences and make me happy, or are they bringing hassle, debt, stress and depression?
2. Enjoy the journey
Place less emphasis on the goal and more on the process – the journey to get there. You do not have to change your world and give up your job, but you should do something you love.
3. Be in the moment
To get the most out of experiences it is important to dive into them completely.
4. Be Your own Audience
Social scientists have discovered that there are two types of motivation – intrinsic, when you do something for yourself and the enjoyment of the experience, and extrinsic, when you do something to impress others or for some reward at the end. If your motivation for doing something is intrinsic it is more likely to make you happy.
5. Put People First
Prioritise the relationships you have.
6. Spend Well and Feel Good
Ask yourself: am I buying this for show, or to really use now? Am I spending my energy and time on what matters to me?
7. Choose Life, Choose Experience
Life is a series of events that you experience, one after another, like a daisy chain of moments. Enjoy experiences that bring happiness and give your life meaning.
From http://www.dailymail.co.uk/
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From https://carolinenester.wordpress.com/
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Smile though your heart is aching
Smile even though it’s breaking
When there are clouds in the sky, you’ll get by
If you smile through your fear and sorrow
Smile and maybe tomorrow
You’ll see the sun come shining through for you
Light up your face with gladness
Hide every trace of sadness
Although a tear may be ever so near
That’s the time you must keep on trying
Smile, what’s the use of crying?
You’ll find that life is still worthwhile, if you just smile
That’s the time you must keep on trying
Smile, what’s the use of crying?
You’ll find that life is still worthwhile, if you just smile
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Smile and the world will smile with you…
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From http://imgbuddy.com
A woman writes to the IT Technical support…..
Dear Tech Support,
Last year I upgraded from Boyfriend 5.0 to Husband 1.0 and I noticed a distinct slowdown in the overall system performance, particularly in the flower and jewellery applications, which operated flawlessly under Boyfriend 5.0.
In addition, Husband 1.0 uninstalled many other valuable programs, such as Romance 9.5 and Personal Attention 6.5,and then installed undesirable programs such as NEWS 5.0, MONEY 3.0 and CRICKET 4.1. Conversation 8.0 no longer runs, and Housecleaning 2.6 simply crashes the system.
Please note that I have tried running Nagging 5.3 to fix these problems, but to no avail. What can I do?
Signed,
Desperate
REPLY
DEAR Madam,
First, keep in mind, Boyfriend 5.0 is an Entertainment Package, while Husband 1.0 is an operating system.
Please enter command: Ithoughtyoulovedme.html and try to download Tears 6.2 and do not forget to install the Guilt 3.0 update. If that application works as designed, Husband1.0 should then automatically run the applications Jewellery 2.0 and Flowers 3.5.
However, remember, overuse of the above application can cause Husband1.0 to default to Silence 2.5 or Beer 6.1. Please note that Beer 6.1 is a very bad program that will download the Snoring Loudly Beta.
Whatever you do, DO NOT in any circumstances install Mother-In-Law 1.0 (it runs a virus in the background that will eventually seize control of all your system resources.)
In addition, please do not attempt to re-install the Boyfriend 5.0 program. These are unsupported applications and will crash Husband 1.0.
In summary, Husband 1.0 is a great program, but it does have limited memory and cannot learn new applications quickly. You might consider buying additional software to improve memory and performance. We recommend: Cooking 3.0 and Good Looks 7.7.
Good Luck!
From https://madamsabi.wordpress.com
Install Giggle 24.7 and run it every day…
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