Free your mind from worries, negative thoughts and nonstop thinking

Peace

Try to calm your mind when you feel agitated. Mentally, take a step back and watch your mind, as if looking at someone else’s mind.Try to watch your thoughts during the day, as if they are not yours, without being sucked into them. Become conscious of the fact that you are watching your thoughts.

Enjoy your inner peace.

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From Look within you

The sea of emotions

“The sea is emotion incarnate. It loves, hates, and weeps. It defies all attempts to capture it with words and rejects all shackles. No matter what you say about it, there is always that which you can’t.”

Christopher Paolini

From http://siemprefeliz.com

“Emotions are like the sea upon which our ship sails, and we don’t try to control the sea, but instead we control our ship…

Our body is the ship that we are given when we were born, and we can learn more about our body and improve it so that it can sail through life more effectively.

Our mind is the captain of the ship, and we can either have an Ahab or Hook type of captain, or maybe one of the more heroic sea captains, but in any case, it’s up to us to either train or reform our minds to be better leaders and navigators…

Emotions are always flowing, and if it seems like we keep feeling certain emotions over and over, that’s only because we keep guiding our ship in that direction over and over. If we think angry, fearful, or sad thoughts all the time, the sea of emotions we sail through will feel that way…

We’re all sharing the sea of emotions, and we can sail through life however we want. Our work is to navigate our ship in the direction we want to go, exploring the waters, lands, and people that are interesting to us. We don’t need to get bogged down in emotions we don’t enjoy, or engage in naval warfare against someone else. Sometimes we’ll sail together, and sometimes we won’t, but the journey will always be interesting…”

From Getting Better, Man

From http://beinglanterns.com

Have a wonderful journey

🙂

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Are you sapiosexual?

“Who are sapiosexuals?” you may ask. In a few words, sapiosexuals are those who fall in love with people’s minds.

Are you sapiosexual? Take the test! 😉


From http://lonerwolf.com

Have you ever fallen in love with the words?

Books are the most patient of teachers, the most constant of friends, and the wisest of counselors. From http://sapiosexual-musings.tumblr.com

or the books?

sapiosexual all the way
From http://www.pinterest.com

Do you appreciate intelligent conversation?

Yesss men we so. Intelligent conversation is real sexy. Stimulate my mind first.
From http://www.pinterest.com

Are you male or female? Well, that does not really matter 😉

Intelligence
From http://www.liveluvcreate.com

Is intelligence the ultimate aphrodisiac for you? 

Intelligence.jpg

From cdn.quotesgram.com

And SMART – the new SEXY? 

This was my lock screen forever...
From http://www.pinterest.com

If you answered ‘Yes’ to any of these questions, then I hope you do know  someone who is in love with your mind? Someone who wants to undress your conscience and make love to your thoughts? Someone who wants to watch you slowly take down all the walls you’ve built up around your mind and let them inside? Someone, who can’t forget the flavour of your mind?

😉

souls connect ☽☆☾
From http://www.pinterest.com

Hope you do have that special SOMEONE in your life

🙂

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Smart Trust


From http://thehearttruths.com

At different times in our lives and in different situations, most of us tend to look at our personal relationships, our teams, our organizations, and our governments through one of two sets of glasses: “blind trust” (naivete) or “distrust” (suspicion). At times, we may even go back and forth between the two.

These glasses have been created by a number of factors, including the way our parents and grandparents may have seen the world, the experiences we’ve had in our personal and professional lives, the people we interact with, the things we read, the things we watch, and the things we listen to. However, most of us don’t even realize that we have these glasses on.

Only as we understand how we’re seeing the world now can we truly appreciate the difference a new pair of glasses can make.

From http://quotes-pictures.vidzshare.net/

The reality is that there is a high cost to both blind trust and distrust. And whether you’re looking at the world primarily through the lens of blind trust or distrust, neither approach is sustainable in the long term. Those who live with blind trust eventually get burned; those who live with distrust eventually experience financial, social, and emotional losses.

Though we’ve become very good at recognizing the cost of trusting too much, we’re not nearly as good at recognizing the cost of not trusting enough… Though we think we’re being smart in taking precautions to protect ourselves against all the things that can happen in this low-trust world, the cost of this approach can be incredibly high, particularly in terms of prosperity, energy, and joy.

From http://izquotes.com

 What is Smart Trust?

Smart Trust is judgement. It’s a competency and a process that enables us to operate with high trust in a low-trust world. It minimizes risk and maximizes possibilities….

The propensity to trust almost always provides the best starting point of Smart Trust… We approach situations with the belief that “most people are basically good,” and the reason we do this is because it opens up a whole new world of possibilities…

From http://izquotes.com

To exercise Smart Trust, however, we need to combine a high propensity to trust with equally high analysis. Analysis refers to our ability to assess, evaluate, and consider implications and consequences, including risk.

From http://www.managementsite.nl

 Smart Trust analysis involves the assessment of 3 vital variables:

  1. Opportunity: clearly identifying what you’re trusting someone with. E.g., Grameen bank trusts its borrowers to pay back their loans.
  2. Risk: evaluating the degree of risk involved. What are the possible outcomes? What is the likelihood of the outcomes?
  3. Credibility: the character and competence of the person or people involved. Just as you likely wouldn’t want to do business with someone who, though very skilled, was a known liar and cheat, neither would you want to do business with someone who was honest but incompetent. Credibility also involves the relevance of the person’s competence to the job to be done. Though you might trust an associate to take over your job while you’re on vacation, you might not trust that same person to cut your hair or operate on your daughter’s knee.

From http://izquotes.com/

Because judgement is developed through experience, we sometimes make mistakes. But the more we can recognize and exercise our propensity to trust and our ability to analyse situation, risk, and credibility effectively and the more we can create the empowering synergy between them, the more successful we will be in creating high-trust relationships and opportunities and increasing prosperity, energy, and joy.

From http://thefrontofthejersey.com

Trust is contagious. When we extend trust, we generate trust; when we withhold trust, we generate distrust. Our actions lead ether toward a virtuous upward cycle of prosperity, energy, and joy or toward a vicious downward cycle that eventually results in the destruction of those outcomes….

Trust is contagious – and so is distrust: in our personal lives, our families, our communities, our teams, our organizations, our nations, and the world.

From http://izquotes.com

Smart trust involves the following 5 steps:

1. Choose to believe in trust:

  • A belief in being worthy of trust
  • A belief that most people can be trusted
  • A belief that extending trust is a better way to lead

From http://goodngreat.com

2. Start with self – the foundational action to create trust not only in ourselves as individuals but also in our organizations.

From http://meetville.com

3. Declare your intent and assume positive intent in others. There are two parts to effectively declaring intent: stating what we want to do and stating why we want to do it. Declaring intent is authentic and transparent, which connects us with people not only intellectually but also emotionally. It gives us the confidence that we are acting intentionally and with purpose. It encourages reciprocity.

From http://izquotes.com

 4. Do what you say you’re going to do

From http://www.prestigeprivateschool.ca

5. Lead out in extending trust to others: trusting people inspires them to want to be worthy of that trust. It brings out the best in them. It helps them develop their capabilities.

From http://thoughtfulandinspirational.blogspot.co.nz

From “Smart Trust”
by Stephen  M.R. Covey and Greg Link

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Managing Stress: Create calm, at work and in your personal life

From http://www.mahederetena.com

Many of us experience stress in life, whether this is in the short term from one-off projects, or long-term stress from a high-pressure career.

Not only can this be profoundly unpleasant, it can seriously affect our health and our work. However, it is possible to manage stress, if you use the right tools and techniques.

 From http://georgianbaymt.blogspot.co.nz

What is Stress?

A widely accepted definition of stress, attributed to psychologist and professor Richard Lazarus, is, “a condition or feeling experienced when a person perceives that demands exceed the personal and social resources the individual is able to mobilize.”

This means that we experience stress if we believe that we don’t have the time, resources, or knowledge to handle a situation. In short, we experience stress when we feel “out of control.”

This also means that different people handle stress differently, in different situations: you’ll handle stress better if you’re confident in your abilities, if you can change the situation to take control, and if you feel that you have the help and support needed to do a good job.

 From http://inspireandmotivateme.blogspot.co.nz

Signs of Stress

Everyone reacts to stress differently. However, some common signs and symptoms include:

  • Cold or sweaty hands and feet.
  • Insomnia, nightmares, disturbing dreams
    Persistent difficulty concentrating.
  • Social withdrawal or isolation.
  • Constant tiredness, weakness, fatigue
  • Increased frustration, irritability, edginess
  • Significant weight gain or loss.
  • Consistent feelings of being overwhelmed or overloaded.
  • Feelings of loneliness or worthlessness.
  • Frequent crying spells, depression or suicidal thoughts

From https://www.boundless.com

 How to Manage Stress

The first step in managing stress is to understand where these feeling are coming from.

Keep a stress diary to identify the causes of short-term or frequent stress in your life. As you write down events, think about why this situation stresses you out. Also, use the Holmes and Rahe Stress Scale to identify specific events that could put you at risk of long-term stress.

Then, consider using some of the approaches below to manage your stress. You’ll likely be able to use a mix of strategies from each area.

From http://www.pinterest.com

1. Action-Oriented Approaches

With action-oriented approaches, you take action to change the stressful situations, e.g.:

  • Manage your time and priorities
  • Be more assertive in managing your boundaries
  • Take action to minimize stress in your working environment.

From http://mindfulcogitations.blogspot.co.nz

2. Emotion-Oriented Approaches

Emotion-oriented approaches are useful when the stress you’re experiencing comes from the way that you perceive a situation.

To change how you think about stressful situations:

From http://www.9monthsin9monthsout.com

3. Acceptance-Oriented Approaches

Acceptance-oriented approaches apply to situations where you have no power to change what happens, and where situations are genuinely bad.

To build your defenses against stress:

  • Use techniques like meditation and physical relaxation to calm yourself when you feel stressed.
  • Take advantage of your support network (e.g. your family and friends).
  • Get enough exercise and sleep, and learn how to make the most of your down time, so that you can recover from stressful events
  • Use laughter, humour and smile to de-stress yourself and transform stress to strength 🙂

From https://www.linkedin.com/

How are you coping with stress in your life? 
What approach helps you the most?

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Are you NORMAL?

From http://www.thepiphanycafe.com/

I was always fascinated with what is considered to be ‘normal’ for us, human beings. As Dr. Eric R. Maisel points out, “This is not an idle question without real-world consequences. The “treatment” of every single “mental disorder” that mental health professionals “diagnose,” from “depression” and “attention deficit disorder” on through “schizophrenia,” flows from how society construes “normal” and “abnormal.” This matter affects tens of millions of people annually; and affects everyone, really, since a person’s mental model of “what is normal?” is tremendously influenced by how society and its institutions define “normal.”

From The Illusion of Normal

The matter of what is normal can’t be and must not be a mere statistical nicety. It can’t be and must not be “normal” to be a Christian just because 95% of your community is Christian. It can’t be and must not be “normal” to own slaves just because all the landowners in your state own slaves. “Normal” can’t mean and must not mean “what we see all the time” or “what we see the most of.” It must have a different meaning from that for it to mean anything of value to right-thinking people.

conformity.jpgFrom http://blog.lib.umn.edu

Nor can it mean “free of discomfort,” as if “normal” were the equivalent of oblivious and you were somehow “abnormal” when you were sentient, human, and real. This, however, is exactly the game played by the mental health industry: it makes this precise, illegitimate switch. It announces that when you feel a certain level of discomfort you are abnormal and you have a disorder. It equates abnormal with unwanted… In this view “normal” is living free of excessive discomfort; “abnormal” is feeling or acting significantly distressed. Normal, in this view, is destroying a village in wartime and not experiencing anything afterward; abnormal is experiencing something, and for a long time thereafter.

Nazi mass murderFrom https://www.hawaii.edu

 The consequences of conscience, reason, and awareness are labeled abnormal and robotic allegiance to wearing a pasted-on smiley face is designated normal. Is that what we really mean? Is that what we really want?”

From What Do We Mean By ‘Normal’?


From http://akyll.deviantart.com

How would you define what is NORMAL
for us, human beings?

Are you NORMAL?

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Age is a question of mind over matter ;-)

“Age is a question of mind over matter. If you don’t mind, it doesn’t matter.”

Mark Twain


From http://www.cartoonaday.com

There are two types of people
You’ll find in this world;
Those that grow young,
And those that grow old.
The old growing type,
Are not very much fun,
They become quite inactive,
Avoiding hot sun.
They complain of misfortunes
Like bad backs and poor stocks,
And soon they need help
With their food and their socks.
But the young growing type
Are a different affair,
They grow ever more fun,
Despite sticks and grey hair.
No longer tied down
To their work every day,
They see their retirement
As a great time to play.
They jet off on adventures,
And plan fun-filled days,
And never become
At all set in their ways.

By PookyH


From http://pattilousquilts.blogspot.co.nz

You don’t stop having fun because you get old,
you get old because you stop having fun

😉

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