
“My wife sent me to the supermarket to buy a fabric softener. Well, actually I was told to take a photo of the shelf of softeners and send it over: apparently, I am not qualified to choose which one to buy. So I came up to the shelf and started taking photos. Suddenly a man nearby pointed at me with his phone and said, âI can send you my photos of all the softeners here. With WhatsApp. I have a full gallery. Each bottle is a close-up from both sides.â I replied, âNo, thanks. I was just told to send the full shelf without close-ups.â âClear. Lucky man…” I laughed, âSomething like that, but thanks for your offer anyway. Great idea with WhatsApp.â The man smiled and said, âSure, but the idea is not mine. See that man taking photos of detergents? He sent the photos to me. And my photo session of baby food starts now. Have fun!â
From 15 Overheard Life Stories Charged With Optimism

It is very well known that men generally do not like to âsweat the small stuffâ. Therefore they are often happy to leave routine domestic decision-making to women and are often putting a great deal of their energy into placating the women in their lives in order to keep their world manageable.
Celia Lashlie however identified some areas of concern in her book âHeâll be OKâ:
âThe principal told me again and again that when two parents come in for a chat because their boyâs in trouble, itâs the norm for the mother to do all the talking. The principal looks towards the father and itâs obvious he has something to say, an opinion to offer, but she wonât shut up long enough for him to actually say itâŚ. I thought it might be an overly prejudiced view, so decided to investigate a little further. The opportunity to do so arose when I found myself in front of a group of fathers.
âListen guys, I just want to check something out with you. Apparently when you and your wife are in the principalâs office because your sonâs in a spot of bother and youâve been called to the school, youâre really quiet, you just donât talk.â
âNo,â came the reply from one man.
âWhy not?â
âBecause Iâll get it wrong.â
Somewhat naively, I replied, âNo, you canât get it wrong, heâs your boy.â
âOh no,â he said, looking straight at me, a now-familiar look of resignation on his face, âIâll get it wrong⌠and Iâll get a pull-through when I get home.â
As he said this, several heads in the room nodded, the men seeming to relish the fact that someone had identified a situation with which they were all very familiarâŚ
After a bit more discussion on this topic with the men, I headed back to talk to their wives and partners and, as I did so, I found myself thinking that the views expressed by the men were probably a little unfair and would offend the women I was about to talk to. I couldnât have been more wrong.
âThe guys have just told me that when theyâre in the principalâs office with you, they donât talk because theyâll get it wrong.â
One woman didnât even hesitate; she looked straight at me and without the slightest hint of the embarrassment I was expecting, she said, âHe will.â
âAnd he reckons heâll get a pull-through when he gets home?â
âI wonât wait that long â Iâll get him in the car.â
There seemed to be universal agreement with her comments and the conversation continued with one woman saying, âI take him to parent-teacher evenings, but he just wonât talk.â By this time I was thinking, Yes, and I think Iâm beginning to see why, so I said, âWell, thereâs one possible solution.â
âWhatâs that?â
âYou could send him by himself, then heâs going to have to talk.
At that moment the entire group of intelligent, articulate middle-class women looked as if Iâd just asked them to eat a snake. (No power and control issues here, I thought to myself!)â…

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