Painful memories are often the hardest to forget. No matter how hard we are trying to shake them off, they leave permanent wrinkles in the fabric of our souls and keep coming back to our minds.
For years scientists were trying to discovered a magic drug that could ‘erase’ painful memories and help people deal with trauma. What effect however that might have on us and our lives? As we learn to avoid dangerous situations by recalling moments of fear and pain, what will happen to all that learning once we get our bad memories erased or re-written? How will our identities change if we no longer remember the things that have hurt us?
Interestingly enough, according to some recent research stressful events in life can be a contributing factor to developing dementia in later life. Could that be the nature’s way of easing the pain of bad memories?
Have you ever being embarrassed of your quietness or shyness? Have you ever being envious of more outspoken charismatic people?
In spite of zero correlation between being the best talker and having the best ideas, often too much of a premium is put on presenting and not enough on substance and critical thinking. As Susan Cain points out, “Introversion – along with its cousins sensitivity, seriousness, and shyness – is now a second-class personality trait, somewhere between a disappointment and a pathology. Introverts living in the Extrovert Ideal are like women in a man’s world, discounted because of a trait that goes to the core of who they are. Extroversion is an enormously appealing personality style, but we’ve turned it into an oppressive standard to which most of us feel we must conform…”.
However don’t despair if you are quiet and introverted by nature. Be yourself and share your ideas as powerfully as you can. You don’t need to be loud to spread your ideas – ideas can be shared quietly, in writing or blogging. The trick is in learning to be yourself, honouring your own style and personality and not allowing yourself to be swept up by the prevailing norms.
Remember: “Everyone shines, given the right lighting.”
From early childhood I hated to hear any comments about my appearance, no matter whether they were negative or positive. I still hate any comments or compliments referring to my physical appearance. Rumi’s quote expressed so well what I always felt: I’m not this hair, I’m not this skin. I don’t want my soul and my whole being to be limited to my physical appearance – I find it denigrating. Have you ever felt like that?