In memory of Ajay Tao

Ajay

Have you ever met Ajay Tao in the blogosphere?

I’ve met Ajay at the beginning of my blogo-journey and enjoyed his comments on my blog: always kind, encouraging and very thoughtful.

I used to follow Ajay’s blogs, including his last one – AjayTao Botanical Photography. However a year ago Ajay’s beautiful posts stopped appearing in my ‘feed’ as he passed away in August last year after a prolonged battle with cancer.

Dear Ajay. Even though you are no longer with us, your kind words are still warming my heart and your beautiful images bring joy to my eyes. Rest in peace…

Flowers

Flowers

They have no mouth, but seem to speak
A thousand words so mild and meek.

They have no eyes , but seem to see
And bury thoughts into me…

Flowers 2

ENDS


Poem from http://www.familyfriendpoems.com/poem/flowers
Images from AjayTao Botanical Photography

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Do more of what makes you happy

Just as materialism transformed life in the 20th century, experientialism has the power to do the same in the 21st century, says the author of an influential new book “Stuffocation: Living more with Less” by James Wallman.

From http://www.amazon.com/

Wallman is a big advocate of “investing in experiences and memories, rather than the short-loved appeal of objects”

We buy too much, have too much, hold on too much. We are weighed down “by our own excesses” and our insatiable hunger for ever-more stuff is making us “joyless, anxious, depressed”. Our obsession with having things is unsustainable, he argues. It has a huge ecological impact. It adds to our debt. And it no longer propels us up the social ladder.

From http://www.dailymail.co.uk/

Experientialism – a value system based on experiences. In experientialism, doing becomes the new having. Happiness and status are defined not but what people have, “but by what people do”.

Experientialism is better for society, better for the world, better for us as people in terms of our happiness and status and giving us meaning in life, he argues. “And once you have a greater sense of happiness, once you have a greater sense of identity, you will be more resilient in your life and in terms of making better choices.”…

From http://www.scapesindia.com/

To be happier and healthier today, tomorrow and in the long run, try the following experientialist habits:

1. Know Your Stuff

To make sure your possessions play a healthy role in your life, ask yourself these questions: How often do I use my possessions? How much stuff do I really need? Do my things give me experiences and make me happy, or are they bringing hassle, debt, stress and depression?

2. Enjoy the journey

Place less emphasis on the goal and more on the process – the journey to get there. You do not have to change your world and give up your job, but you should do something you love.

3. Be in the moment

To get the most out of experiences it is important to dive into them completely.

4. Be Your own Audience

Social scientists have discovered that there are two types of motivation – intrinsic, when you do something for yourself and the enjoyment of the experience, and extrinsic, when you do something to impress others or for some reward at the end. If your motivation for doing something is intrinsic it is more likely to make you happy.

5. Put People First

Prioritise the relationships you have.

6. Spend Well and Feel Good

Ask yourself: am I buying this for show, or to really use now? Am I spending my energy and time on what matters to me?

7. Choose Life, Choose Experience

Life is a series of events that you experience, one after another, like a daisy chain of moments. Enjoy experiences that bring happiness and give your life meaning.

From http://www.dailymail.co.uk/

16 Things To Give Up If You Want A Happy Life

From http://www.lifehack.org/

THE END

Memories


From http://www.forwallpaper.com

Within my book of memories
are special thoughts of you
and all the evidence of glorious things
which, because of you, came true.

As I turn back the pages of memories
and recall each single thought,
I realize the happiness and pleasure
that knowing you has brought.

There are memories of the times
we’ve shared both bright and gloomy days
there are memories of your kindness
and your friendly, thoughtful ways.

There are memories of your laughter,
your gay and cheery smile
that added a bright note to each of us
and made life more worthwhile.

There are memories of the things
we planned each friendly little chat,
when we would get together
and just talk of this and that.

And when I recall these memories
as I move along life’s way
they grow more precious and blessed
with every passing day.

By Jonzen Chow

From http://4.bp.blogspot.com

THE END