Last weekend I spotted a lot of Father’s Day messages on my Facebook. Father’s Day is a celebration honoring fathers and celebrating fatherhood, paternal bonds, and the influence of fathers in society. Many countries celebrate it on the third Sunday of June, but it is also celebrated widely on other days.
Children need involved fathers in every aspect of their lives. Researchers found that the love – or rejection – of mothers and fathers affects kids’ behavior, self-esteem, emotional stability, and mental health. When dads aren’t around, young people are more likely to drop out of school, use drugs, be involved in the criminal justice system, and become young parents themselves.
Zhai Haijun notes that a considerable body of scientific literature points to the fact that children whose fathers are involved in their lives tend to be more advanced linguistically, perform better in school and are better adjusted psychologically. Fathers are important role models for their children. Boys especially benefit greatly from having a male role model. Boys and girls benefit tremendously from the example provided by a loving and caring mother and father. A mother who enjoys a good relationship with her husband is happier and this in turn helps her to be a better mother. No doubt, both parents benefit from being able to share the burdens of raising a family. This is even more true today at a time when fathers are more likely to play an active part in household activities and child rearing.
From A Daddy Blog
As Zhai Haijun points out, being a dad is also a great learning experience for a father. “In a very real sense, in being a father I also learned a great deal about myself, about life and the world. Fatherhood provided an invaluable window to my own past through which I was able to gain a better view of my own upbringing, sense of identity and perspective on the present. Being a father also provides one with a valuable “future” perspective. Fathers are concerned about the world that their children will inherit. Fathers want to make and leave a legacy of a better world than they themselves experienced.”
From Great Quotes
Unfortunately, fatherlessness is a growing problem in Australia and the Western world. Whether caused by divorce and broken families, or by deliberate single parenting, more and more children grow up without fathers. Fortunately, there are lots of good men in the wider family and community who can provide support and become good role-models for children who are growing without their biological fathers.
Let’s honor all those special – the real men every day, not just on Father’s day!
From The Real Father
Resources:
- The Facts of Fatherlessness
- The Importance of Being Dad
- Big Buddy – volunteer mentoring programme for fatherless boys
- Why do men need fathers?
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[Let’s honor all those special men every day, not just on Father’s day!]
Yes. What if we did treat every day as if it were father’s day and mother’s day? I think our whole world would be soooo much more amazing!
Very good point. How about a Children’s day every day as well. 🙂
That sounds great!
Nice.
🙂
Wonderful post, and so true! It is the one who fulfills the role, not biology, that makes a father, (or mother). It is always nice when the role and the biology are the same person but, in the end, it is the love that matters. Namaste . . .
Very well said, risinghawk. And that definitely applies to both fathers and mothers. Unfortunately, not all biological mothers fulfill this role well 😦
I do agree with you both… Such a shame and such a pity that some biological parents have kids who did not “ask” to come to life… There’s a French saying:”parents drink and their children cheer!” – which means that kids always (have to!) bear the consequences of the choices, decisions, acts of their irresponsible parents… 😦
Unfortunately, children always bear the consequences of their parent’s irresponsibility. 😦
Great post…
Glad that you liked it 🙂
This is one of the better posts I have seen to celebrate Fathers Day and the importance of children having a real father in their life.
Thanks for your kind words. Glad that you like this post. 🙂
Thanx for your interesting and realistic topic… as adults, we are the result of the relation(s) that we’ve had (or not!) with our parents during our childhood and adolescence, we “inherit” balance, harmony, responsibility, self-respect/esteem from them…
So true. Thanks for your comment 🙂
Thoughtful and well written. Thank you. Good fathering is so important for healthy, happy kids, and therefore society, it can’t be overemphasised.
Thanks for your insightful comment. 🙂
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Thanks a lot, Ajay. I enjoyed writing this post and looking at the pictures of real men in our lives, hard-working and caring. Men, who make a real difference.
yes dear very beautiful post
in particular I loved that quote
those are real fathers
who help raise their children
and does not just help make them
thank you dear
you have a great spirit
I love that
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I was once a useless father but after reading your comments i have changed from bad father to best father ever. I thank you