How do you see the world? How do you grow?

“Become friends with people who aren’t your age. Hang out with people whose first language isn’t the same as yours. Get to know someone who doesn’t come from your social class. This is how you see the world. This is how you grow.”

From World Wisdom

diversity in the workplaceFrom

“I often encountered the negative view that boys’ schools produce men who are unable to relate to women and who, because of their arrogance about being male – encouraged by the school – carry negative perceptions about the place of women in today’s society…. At the very least it has been suggested the boys leaving such schools are emotionally bereft and incapable of establishing and maintaining effective personal relationships with women…

It was uncommon for the fathers of some students, men who had themselves been educated at boys’ schools, to reflect that they’d been unable to understand or communicate effectively with members of the opposite sex when they left school. Some of them went on to conceded that the workings of the female brain remained a mystery to this day and I have no doubt they’re not alone in holding that view….

Their adolescent sons didn’t, however, appear to share their experience of not being able to communicate effectively with adolescent girls. Partly due no doubt to the greater degree of social freedom available to girls today, the boys appeared to understand their female counterparts much better than their fathers had.

Almost all boys I spoke to had close female friends within their immediate peer group – often referred to as ‘chick-mates’ – and many spoke of the value of the conversations they had with these girl friends about the ‘real’ stuff, the stuff they could not or would not talk about with their male peers.”

From ‘He’ll be OK: Growing gorgeous boys into good men
by Celia Lashlie


The same principle applies very well to mentoring.

As Prof. D Clutterbuck points out, ‘mentoring fulfills a desire most people share; that is to pass on their learning to help other people develop their potential.’

Dave Stein notes however that “mentoring is much more complex and complicated relationship than most people think. Mentors and their protégés need to take care to establish a mutually-beneficial relationship in order for it to be truly successful.”

Protégé must be willing to work hard at improvement.  That means “defining and accepting their shortcomings and being open to changing or forming new habits through adopting new strategies and tactics.” They have to be “honest, objective, appreciative, motivated and have the courage to change.”

What’s in it for the mentor? Mentors not only get the satisfaction of helping someone who needs and wants their assistance.  They also get to improve their own coaching, leadership, communication, and management skills.  Mentors note that they “often get new ideas and insights from my protégés” and their protégés provide them with an expansion of their business and professional network.



How do you see the world?

How do you grow?


17 thoughts on “How do you see the world? How do you grow?

  1. bkpyett says:

    Excellent ideas!

  2. Healing I do, but always I learn from each and every encounter. Blind is the man who will not look, deaf is the man who will not listen and mute is the man who will not speak. Namaste

  3. The article raised good points to consider, the type of relationship between young people and the opposite gender has certainly changed compared to say 20 years ago. My two son’s attended a boys school and they have no challenges when conversing with females at all. As mentioned in the article circumstances have somewhat changed, there are several forums for people to interact and they are well used. I can also concur with the relationship between mentors and mentees, as a personal development and relationship advisor I have been blessed with the benefits of teaching and yet learning, hence I can truly say that supporting others is both joyful and rewarding.

    • Otrazhenie says:

      Loved your comment. I also found blogging very joyful and rewarding for the same reason, as it allows us to learn from others and share our thoughts with others across cultural, geographical, age, gender or other barriers.Thanks for sharing your thoughts and life experience. 🙂

  4. Amazing opening quote. Amazing!! Thanks.

  5. Naomikko says:

    Wor very goog the article. I.m glad I stopped by. I just subscribed at work at the volunteers group so Ișm really excited abut mentoring and not only..Thanks for sharing:)

  6. alifeinstory says:

    I haven’t had the longest life to say definitively that different genders act better around each as opposed to previous eras, but I think there’s a lot of different social factors exhibited in most first world countries that kind of help that progress (or whatever you want to call it) along.

    I’m only 29, but there’s a certain laxity on language now that changes how we talk and open ourselves up to new experiences. Subjects that were deemed too prude to talk about in public years ago by people of my parent’s age are now kind of open and easier to talk about. That doesn’t necessarily translate to better gender relations on the surface, but if analyzed a little closer, you can see that people are becoming more caring toward and in tune with emotion, which can directly translate to better relationships between genders.

    My pops has some severe Irish stoicism going on (and probably always will), whereas my mom had sort of an emotional distance when I was a child (not so much now, funny enough), and it doesn’t seem like anyone I meet these days are of that old ilk. That old vanguard of parents with their emotional murkiness is sort of fading away gradually, it feels like.

    Thanks for reading my blog/ liking my post, by the way. I enjoyed this read. Interesting stuff.

    • Otrazhenie says:

      Very interesting observation. I also do feel that people are becoming more caring, have better conflict resolution skills and have better relationships in general. However the conditions we are living in might be much better as well. Let’s not forget the hardships experienced by many people of the older generations. The true measures of love are often very bitter, such as poverty, hunger, sickness, pain, separation and death. I wrote a post on that a year or so ago – you can find it at

  7. thankyou for passing by, hope alls going well in your World… wish my son had a mentor

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