Happiness is YOU

“The art of being happy lies in the power of extracting happiness from common things.”

Henry Ward Beecher

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“We all want to live happy and fulfilling lives and we want the people we love to be happy too. So happiness matters to all of us.

Happiness is about our lives as a whole: it includes the fluctuating feelings we experience everyday but also our overall satisfaction with life. It is influenced by our genes, upbringing and our external circumstances – such as our health, our work and our financial situation. But crucially it is also heavily influenced by our choices – our inner attitudes, how we approach our relationships, our personal values and our sense of purpose….

The research shows that happiness and fulfilment come less from material wealth and more from relationships; less from focusing on ourselves and more from helping others; less from external factors outside our control and more from the way in which we choose to react to what happens to us.”

 From Action for Happiness

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Can happiness survive in one of the coldest parts of the world? Check out this video of -50C happiness from Yakutia –  part of the Russian Federation known for its extreme climate. Winters here are extremely cold. Some of the lowest natural temperatures ever recorded have been here. The Northern Hemisphere’s Pole of Cold is at Verkhoyansk, where the temperatures reached as low as −67.8 °C (−90.0 °F) in 1892, and at Oymyakon, where the temperatures reached as low as −71.2 °C (−96.2 °F) in 1926.

Happy Easter! 🙂 

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Responsible Parenting: Happy Parents = Happy Children

HappyFrom Happy Parents, Happy Kids

Have you noticed that on airplanes you are always advised to put your oxygen mask first before helping your children? If you run out of oxygen yourself, you can hardly provide any help to your children. The same applies to parenting: as a responsible parent, you should take responsibility for your own happiness and well-being to be able to raise happy children.

“Making your kids the center of your life may seem child-friendly, but it can create long-term unhappiness for everyone in the family,” says David Code, the author of To Raise Happy Kids, Put Your Marriage First“. Many couples believe their marriage is strong because they rarely argue,” he says. “But the real marriage killer is when we distance ourselves from our spouse to keep the peace: We throw ourselves into parenting or work to avoid dealing with issues that cause conflict.” And if you and your spouse become distant, it places pressure on your kids to fulfill your emotional needs.

After all, when you put your marriage on the back burner, your kids can sense the lack of closeness between you. “Kids whose parents’ relationship has cooled are more likely to have behavioral or academic problems than kids of happy couples,” says Philip Cowan, PhD, a professor at the University of California, Berkeley, who has studied families for decades with his wife, psychologist Carolyn Pape Cowan, PhD. Think of your relationship as the emotional environment in which your kids live. Just as you want them to breathe clean air and drink pure water, you want them to grow up in a loving atmosphere.

Easier to say than to do, some of you might say. That’s true – not all relationships can be easily fixed. Some relationships are way too toxic and can’t be fixed at all – unfortunately, the relationship between my own parents was in that category. Sometimes I wish they never met each other – that would have been so much better for both of them. If you are caught in one of such extremely toxic cases, talk to someone you trust and seek professional help.

Otherwise see whether there is anything you can do to improve the emotional atmosphere at your home. A few tips and hints are provided below to get you started (my dear visitors and followers, feel free to add to this list via comments):

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The economics of happiness

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Conventional wisdom says that money can’t buy happiness. In fact, research shows that money can make us happier—but only if we spend it in particular ways.

In their book “Happy Money: The Science of Smarter Spending“, authors Elizabeth Dunn and Michael Norton draw on years of quantitative and qualitative research to explain how we can turn cash into contentment.

The key lies in adhering to five key principles:

Buy Experiences (research shows that material purchases are less satisfying than vacations or concerts);

Make it a Treat (limiting access to our favorite things will make us keep appreciating them);

Buy Time (focusing on time over money yields wiser purchases);

Pay Now, Consume Later (delayed consumption leads to increased enjoyment); and

Invest in Others (spending money on other people makes us happier than spending it on ourselves).

“One of the most common things people do with their money is get stuff,” explains Norton, an associate professor of marketing at Harvard Business School. “But we have shown…in research that stuff isn’t good for you. It doesn’t make you unhappy, but it doesn’t make you happy. But one thing that does make us happy is an experience.”

From Venitism

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It’s not just individuals who should be thinking about investing in experiences when making purchasing choices. Policy makers should also keep this reasoning in mind for their communities. When there are plenty of parks, bike and hiking trails and other recreational opportunities available in the community, you can expect to have a happier population.

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Have a Happy Weekend

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