Are You Lonely in Your Relationship?


Loneliness is a very painful feeling… You might believe that the people who feel lonely are people who are not in a relationship, but as Margaret Paul points out, just as often, they are lonely in their relationship. Being in a relationship does not always take away loneliness – it often causes it.


 Do you ever feel lonely in your relationship?


18 thoughts on “Are You Lonely in Your Relationship?

  1. satzie says:

    I have felt loneliness with friends. There use to be lot of caring and good hearted people around me. But i would feel so lonely. And end up being a little crazy and would hurt friends around me to make sure they don’t come near me again. One or two who managed to surpass that crazy hurting character of mine, have stayed as my friends till date. As years kept growing, i felt those few learned a lot on how to handle and get together with me with the right pace.

    When it comes to highly intimate relationships like love with my girlfriend, i don’t remember like such a lonely feel with her. But i’m mostly afraid and i think that i often end up making her feel lonely and guilty, and becoming an accidental diminisher.

    • Otrazhenie says:

      Oh, don’t be too hard on yourself, Satzie. We all can be ‘accidental diminishers’ at times. None of us is perfect. All the best to you in all your relationships 🙂

      • satzie says:

        Thank you Otrazhenie. 🙂
        Quite true with what you said. None of us is perfect. Felt a little better after reading that.

        Good post Otrazhenie 🙂

  2. lolsy254 says:

    I absolutely agree with both of those pictures/statements…That second one really hits home though. The amount of people that I’ve had in my life where I’ve known them for a really long time and then gone “I don’t know you at all”. Mind blowing! I thought I was the only one who felt like that =P lol
    I have felt lonely in a relationship, hence why I’m not with them anymore. I’ve also had a relationship though where within a week of us mutually breaking up, turned into a completely different person. It was heart breaking, still is really.

  3. Lonliness is ranked higher than even smoking, towards increased risks of heart disease. Great article and a really tough feeling isn’t it when you discover you don’t really know your “friends” – or they don’t “know” you! either way, it always seems to come back to know and only expect from yourself. you’ve given some good food for thought here, thanks!! 🙂 mikey

  4. Fran Macilvey says:

    We can become our own best friend, which helps deal with the loneliness, and with the feeling that no-one understands us. ‘Ending up’ with people who don’t understand us might be a cue to have a conversation, change our relationships or get out more. We have the power, people! Thanks for this reflection. xxx 🙂

  5. This is so true O, and I have lived it. It seems such a contradiction but so true as well. But not any more.

  6. Randstein says:

    I admire how you address such hard hitting subjects with concise words and a kind touch. Early in life, I was tormented by feelings of loneliness and isolation. Relationships and friends could not completely relieve that bone deep ache that kept me at arms length, silenced my voice, and formed a mask over my emotions. It was my experiences in war that freed me. I began to cherish the tranquility of being alone. I no longer feared loneliness or death. They became good friends. When I found that I enjoyed my own company, I began to live and the ache disappeared.

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