I must learn to love the fool in me – the one who feels too much, talks too much…

“I must learn to love the fool in me–the one who feels too much, talks too much, takes too many chances, wins sometimes and loses often, lacks self-control, loves and hates, … laughs and cries. It alone protects me against that utterly self-controlled, masterful tyrant whom I also harbor and who would rob me of human aliveness, humility, and dignity but for my fool.”
Theodore I. Rubin, MD

18 thoughts on “I must learn to love the fool in me – the one who feels too much, talks too much…

  1. The fool within each of us is a character we must nurture at all times. It is that persona that allows us to exhibit our humanness, that as it says allows us to laugh, love, grow take risks and be attractive to others around us.
    In my work i take risks a lot, as i am a curious person who wants to see what happens if a certain action is followed through with.
    It can be so exciting most days.
    We push the tyrant to the front, we become unattractive and probably abhorrent to others.

    • Otrazhenie says:

      So true, Michael. This post was partially inspired by one of your previous comments when you mentioned that sometimes you feel ‘like an idiot’. Well, sometimes we all feel like that. None of us is perfect, we all make mistakes and such moments when we feel ‘like an idiot’ makes us human and humane. Otherwise we would be just robots – perfectly designed machines with no feelings, no emotions, no life…

      • So true O, I often the remember the fool in King Lear, who is Fool only in name but rather in reality is the voice of reason and sanity. And we love the playful nature of the people we love. My kids love telling me about how ‘traumatized’ they are from growing up with my as a father. I find their stories more traumatizing when i find out what they really were up to and I didn’t know. But we see the fun in it now, and thankfully we laugh a lot when we are together. “Like an idiot’ comes from a day I was not going so well on…hmmmm you read my replies that close eh?

      • Otrazhenie says:

        Oh that fool in King Lear – loved this character. The only one who could say the truth, the only one who could challenge the King’s views, the only one who could challenge accepted norms and opinions.

        “Holy fools” or “blessed fools” played an important part in Russian culture and history too. According to a legend, once such β€˜blessed fool’ saved the whole city from brutal Ivan the Terrible. In 1570 the Tsar Ivan the Terrible headed towards Pskov, intending to drown the city in the blood of innocent people. Having withstood many sieges, Pskov was not used to defending its inhabitants from its own Tsar, and therefore, refused to take up armed resistance. Ivan the Terrible was met by the city residents and the local β€œGod’s fool”, Nicola Salos. Jumping around on a stick and acting like a clown, the holy fool called on the Tsar to taste some bread and salt, and not spill human blood. Then the fool suddenly disappeared. The Tsar was frightened and ordered his army to retreat from the city.

  2. Isn’t it that way, that sometimes the thing we love about the other person is this ‘fool’? That they laugh too much, talk too much. To my mind, we avoid people who are too self-controlled. When I see that kind of a person, I get the impression that they (intentionally or not) act against human nature.

  3. viewpacific says:

    Who’s to say how much is “too much”?

    Doesn’t it serve us to sometimes let go, to dance, to express what’s alive in us?

    I admit to being a “dancing fool”, and I’m okay with being called that.


  4. shoe1000 says:

    Awesome picture. It says it better than any words could express.

  5. Selah Vita says:

    becoming a fool, as some call, it is to risk being who you truly are! being a fool to some is true love to another…
    love your picture here, and the words are “just perfect”.

  6. We all need a little more of appreciation of the fool within. Thanks

  7. DePlume19 says:

    Thanks for sharing. I love a great quote, especially when it’s fitting, which it is. I’m following!

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