“A chicken is not a bird and a woman is not a person.”
( old Russian folk sayings )
( From Angels in Distress )
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(From My View and Opinion blog)
“Husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29After all, no one ever hated his own body, but he feeds and cares for it, just as Christ does the church— 30for we are members of his body. 31“For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.”c 32This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. 33However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.”
( From Ephesians 5 )
- Every hour one Russian woman dies at the hands of her husband or partner
- Over one half (52.9%) of Russian women believed that intimate partner violence in Russia was a “serious problem”
- Current statistics suggest that approximately 36,000 Russian women are physically victimized at the hands of their intimate partner on a daily basis and that 79% of married women in Russia have experienced physical abuse by their partners during their marriage
- Women in Russia are four to five times more likely to experience intimate partner violence than women in the West
- Women in Russia are two and a half times more likely to be murdered at the hands of an intimate partner than women in the United States
- Certain interpretations of beliefs regarding the sanctity of marriage, the divine authority of men over the family, and the acceptance of suffering and endurance as necessary in individual lives, as an emulation of suffering of Christ, have been cited as common deterrents prohibiting women from actively questioning or challenging the inappropriateness of the use of violence by their partners
- Spiritual abuse includes the misuse and abuse of religious doctrine as a means of maintaining male power and control in intimate relationships (including the use of religious doctrine as a justification for male violence)
- The teachings of the Russian Orthodox Church have “condemned women as sinful – wanton, deceitful, instigator of lust and pollution to encourage men to fear and distrust women and to control their sexuality in order to protect the family from dishonor and society from disorder”. Women are assigned an inferior position within the family and society as man’s servant. As such, the main duty of a woman is obedience to her husband
- The priest and Director of the Diocesan School of Orthodox catechesis and the church pedagogy of St. Sergius Radonezhskiy Anatoly Garmayev points out “The duty of the wife is to honor and respect her husband. … The next duty of the wife is to be submissive to her husband. After all, submissive to her husband – so, revering him”
- The Church’s characterization of women as the servants of men not only influences the development of individual attitudes that support men’s use of violence against women but have also impacted the status of women in Russian society as a whole.
- When cases of domestic violence are reported to the militia (police), the issue is often referred back to the family to address as a private matter.
- The climate of social acceptance in Russia that allows violence against women by their intimate partners to remain largely unchallenged has been heavily influenced by the traditions and principles of the Russian Orthodox Church. The Church’s construction of the family as a private patriarchal institution contributes to the prevailing opinion of Russians that domestic violence is a private matter and should be solved within the family.
( From “A chicken is not a bird…” )
- According to the Qur’an, men and women have the same spiritual human nature.
- Men and women have the same religious and moral duties and responsibilities. They both face the consequences of their deeds
- Nowhere does the Qur’an state that one gender is superior to the other. Some mistakenly translate “qiwamah” or responsibility for the family as superiority. The Qur’an makes it clear that the sole basis for superiority of any person over another is piety and righteousness not gender, color, or nationality
- The Islamic Shariiah recognizes the full property rights of women before and after marriage. A married woman may keep her maiden name.
- Greater financial security is assured for women. They are entitled to receive marital gifts, to keep present and future properties and income for their own security. No married woman is required to spend a penny from her property and income on the household. She is entitled to full financial support during marriage and during the waiting period (‘iddah) in case of divorce. She is also entitled to child support. Generally, a Muslim woman is guaranteed support in all stages of her life, as a daughter, wife, mother, or sister. These additional advantages of women over men are somewhat balanced by the provisions of the inheritance which allow the male, in most cases, to inherit twice as much as the female. This means that the male inherits more but is responsible financially for other females: daughters, wives, mother, and sister, while the female (i.e., a wife) inherits less but can keep it all for investment and financial security without any legal obligation so spend any part of it even for her own sustenance (food, clothing, housing, medication, etc.)
- The Qur’an effectively ended the cruel pre-Islamic practice of female infanticide and went further to rebuke the unwelcoming attitudes among some parents upon hearing the news of the birth of a baby girl, instead of a baby boy
- Education is not only a right but also a responsibility of all males and females
- Marriage in Islam is based on mutual peace, love, and compassion, not just the satisfaction of man’s needs
- The female has the right to accept or reject marriage proposals. Her consent is prerequisite to the validity of the marital contract according to the Prophet’s teaching. It follows that if by “arranged marriage” is meant marrying the girl without her consent, then such a marriage is nullifiable if she so wished.
- The husband is responsible for the maintenance, protection, and overall headship of the family (qiwamah) within the framework of consultation and kindness. The mutual dependency and complementary of the roles of males and females does not mean “subservience” by either party to the other.
- Divorce is seen as the last resort, which is permissible but not encouraged. Under no circumstances does the Qur’an encourage, allow or condone family violence or physical abuse and cruelty. The maximum allowed in extreme cases is a gentle tap that does not even leave a mark on the body while saving the marriage from collapsing.
- Prophet Muhammad taught kindness, care, and respect of women in general: “I command you to be kind to women”
( From Gender Equity in Islam )
There exists, among Muslims a big gap between the ideal and the real.
Cultural practices on both extremes do exist.
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